An Open Letter to those Who Always Seem To Love the wrong Person

Someday you’re gonna love someone who’s soul is as deep as the ocean, who would look at you like you’re the only star in the sky. I know your heart has been through so much. There are cracks and holes and bruises, but someday there’s gonna be that someone who will carefully pick up the pieces and will try to fix it as much as they can without even them realizing it. Loving the right person will just eventually teach your heart to love like you have never been hurt.  You have so much love to give to people but the once you chose were lost wolves who couldn’t even fix their selves. You can’t change people. You can only love them.

Know your worth and trust your instincts. If you feel that something is not right, leave. You’re too wonderful to waste your feelings on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Stop looking for love, especially in the wrong places. Chances are, if you’re lonely, you won’t recognize what’s real from not. You’ll accept attention even if they only give that to you only when they want something from you or when it’s only convenient for them. There’s a difference between a guy who gives time for you even if they’re busy and someone who only tries to contact you when they’re bored or lonely.

Invest in yourself. Instead of feeling hopeless, stand up and focus on your goals, your career, your friends and your family. The right one will come along unexpectedly. Believe me, I have proven it.

Know that what you have gone through makes you stronger. It’s okay to make mistakes. In time, you’ll know when to walk away. And by that time, you’ll know what to avoid already and you’ll recognize a love you truly deserve. Everything has its own perfect timing, so be patient. Maybe your time is not quite there yet. Maybe it’s tomorrow.  Maybe it’s next year. Who knows?

And someday, someone’s gonna come along who will love every bit of fiber in your being. Let him love you cos I know you will too. Even if you’re scared. remember that not all guys are gonna break you. One of them is gonna make you. Wait for it.


Fun fact: I wrote a draft of this in my journal several months ago. A few days after, someone came along and I have never been so happy.  Law of attraction is real. 

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24 Comments

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    Mariz
    July 2, 2016 at 6:12 pm

    Thank you for this open letter, ate Alissa! You’re so kind to remind people of their worth. The seond paragraph is my fav of all. <3

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    MJ
    July 3, 2016 at 8:16 am

    This gave me the feels. I’m currently having the same thoughts. What keeps me sane now are my family, goals and friends. You are right. I also believe in perfect timing. God’s perfect timing. What matters is that I did my best to keep him but somehow ended up left and alone. I don’t regret it though. It’s not my lost. It’s somehow his because he left the only girl who will love him that much.

    Someday, we will find the right person for us and we will just laugh out the pain we had today.
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      Alissa
      July 4, 2016 at 11:23 am

      Exactly. Everything has its perfect timing. From all the bad that I have experienced, I’m still thankful for it cos it made me learn even in a not so good way. I’m happy now with my current one and I hope you will someday too 🙂

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    Lou
    July 3, 2016 at 8:43 am

    I so love this. This is just too brave and positive. I’m always reminded by my friends to know my worth, and that I should take the risks even in a 50/50 chances of losing or winning. I love this line here “Even if you’re scared. remember that not all guys are gonna break you. One of them is gonna make you. Wait for it.”

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      Alissa
      July 4, 2016 at 11:28 am

      Love is a gamble indeed 🙂 Bring your head with you and always trust your instincts. 🙂 Sometime, we just have to have the right judgement and to not have high expectations.

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    Bae Milanes
    July 3, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    “Remember that not all guys are gonna break you. One of them is gonna make you. Wait for it.”

    I love this line. 🙂 This is the perfect ending to this blog post.

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      Alissa
      July 4, 2016 at 11:29 am

      Thanks Bae 🙂

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    Khay
    July 3, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    So inspiring! Seems, it came from the directly from the heart.

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    Da Dominguez
    July 4, 2016 at 10:48 am

    I have this journal too. It’s where I keep all my unorganized thoughts that pop up from time to time. And I’m fond of writing ones like this as well. And it feels so good to re-read them again, knowing that I’ve been through it and that I feel a whole lot different about it now. Bet you felt the same way when that someone came along. <3
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      Alissa
      July 8, 2016 at 8:49 am

      I sure did. Sometimes I feel stupid on why I made the wrong choice in the first place but I’m just glad I have something beautiful to hold on now. 🙂

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    Johanna L Davey
    July 4, 2016 at 8:17 pm

    I enjoyed reading this blog post as well as the others you’ve already posted months ago lol but seriously this is perfect and very inspiring Alissa! 🙂

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      Alissa
      July 8, 2016 at 8:50 am

      Thanks Jo! 🙂 We learned a thing or two about love.

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    Tricia Willa
    July 7, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Last year, I have been bruised and broken as I fell in love with a wrong guy. I was a mess for a couple of months but afterwards I came to realize that he’s not worth the tears and there are better guys that would love me wholeheartedly.

    I seriously love this post.

    – Tricia Willa | Eccentric Earthling

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      Alissa
      July 8, 2016 at 8:52 am

      That’s the spirit! Sometimes I’d like to think that some people have to go through something in order to have the best thing. It’s like a blessing in disguise somehow. I’m sure next time, you would pick the one who you deserves.

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    Kandice
    July 7, 2016 at 12:48 pm

    I am lost of words. this letter is relatable to all those who have loved and love the wrong person. It also shows the reality effect of how things should be; we always have to love ourselves first until we found the right person. Beautiful letter dear!

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      Alissa
      July 8, 2016 at 8:54 am

      Thank you Kandice! 🙂 Glad we met ours already.

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    Jae
    July 8, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Aww this warms my heart. I remember catching up with you around this time, and look at you now. 🙂 Law of attraction is real indeed. 😉
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      Alissa
      July 9, 2016 at 12:10 pm

      haha yeah, I know right 🙂 Everything has been nothing but good.

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    Veronica
    July 10, 2016 at 2:30 am

    Aww. That ‘wait for it’ in the end. He’s gonna come. Everybody is destined for somebody, It’s just a matter of time. Law of attraction indeed is true!

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    Veronica
    July 10, 2016 at 2:31 am

    Aww. That ‘wait for it’ in the end. He’s gonna come. Everybody is destined for somebody, It’s just a matter of time. It will definitely be worth it. Law of attraction indeed is true!
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    Veronica
    July 10, 2016 at 2:32 am

    Aww. That ‘wait for it’ in the end. He’s gonna come. Everybody is destined for somebody, It’s just a matter of time. It will definitely be worth it because the man God has for you will exceed your expectations. Law of attraction indeed is true!
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    Kimmy
    January 6, 2017 at 4:15 am

    It’s so amazing when you do find someone and it just clicks. I wasn’t expecting to find someone so soon after my last relationship ended. My last relationship was a bit toxic and thankfully I found the strength to end it. If I hadn’t then I wouldn’t have opened myself up to be ready for how things are now.

    Great post! And I love how you ended up meeting someone too after writing this out.
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      Alissa
      January 6, 2017 at 2:08 pm

      Glad everything went better for you as well. It’s funny how the universe works, indeed. Everything happens for a readon.

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    Kelly Jessica
    April 27, 2017 at 12:29 am

    Been back reading lately and this touched my heart. It is true to invest in yourself. Make yourself grow and happy first. That’s the first thing to do ❤

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