#DearMe

I found this hashtag circling around YouTube and the idea is to write something to your younger self. This is to honor the International Women’s Day which will be on March 8. This campaign is on YouTube but I would want to share my letter through a blog post. You can do the same too. 

Dear Me,

I don’t know where to start. I have so many things to say to you that I think this open letter isn’t gonna be enough. But I’ll try to anyway.

My first memory I have was a three year old girl with wondrous eyes full of curiosity singing along to nursery rhyme songs. You were performing to a handful of people that consists of your mom, dad, cousins and aunts. You were a star. I always wondered where that little girl went cos I can’t imagine myself being the center of attention. I guess people do change.

You became a fearful little kid who always get bullied at school. Although you have some few friends, oftentimes, you were always alone by yourself on the outside looking in. An observer. I know those times were so hard for you living in an extroverted world as an introvert. But let me tell you this, it’s okay to feel that way. It’s okay to enjoy being alone cos that’s what you are. Don’t let anybody get you down just because you enjoy your own company. They just don’t understand. Embrace that part of you cos silence doesn’t always mean weakness. Sometimes it means courage. Not giving up, still goes to school even if it was torture, and I think it’s brave of you for doing that despite how much it stresses you out.

Remember that time you stood up for the first time to a bully? I’m so proud you did that because they finally stopped. After 7 years of  letting them win, they finally heard your voice. Did you know what I’m more proud of though? You forgave them. Everyone was stunned when you spoke for yourself and that bully said sorry. Just like that. Now that I think of it, I should’ve told you to fight back and do what she has done to you. But you knew better. You didn’t let a tear fall down your face and you look at her in the eye and said it’s okay.
You’ve made some mistakes in the past and sometimes you hate yourself for it. Things happen for a reason and sometimes those mistakes gave us some lessons that we can carry for the rest of our lives. So don’t dwell on it.

You always complain back then how you don’t have many friends, how you feel like no one notices you. But always remember that you are only invisible to those who doesn’t deserve you. You may only have two or three friends but I consider you fortunate. I mean, there are people out there who have so many friends yet they can’t share their fears and dreams to either one of them. Quality over quantity, that’s what they say. And I’m glad you chose to have the former.

Oh, the heartbreak. We’ve all been through that. You cry yourself to sleep, always wondering what went wrong, insecurities go bigger and bigger until you found out that it’s for the better. It’s not your fault and you’ll find someone better along the way. Focus on yourself more and love will just arrive. Someone will look at you with love in his eyes and will forever stay with you. Just wait for it. It will surely come.

You have always lived in fear but there are times that you just go for it. I sometimes think that you were braver back then. I guess I can say I’m a little bit confident now but sometimes, there’s this part of my brain that wants me to just hide from the world. I’m much more scared of my future than you were scared before. So I guess I’ll say this to both my present me and my younger me: It’s okay to be afraid. It’s okay to pause for a while and think. It’s okay to not do what is expected of you to do. It’s okay to stay for awhile in your comfort zone just as long as you move forward little by little each passing day. It’s okay to follow your fears too. You’ll never know if you try. Maybe you just have to get used to that fear until it goes away. Do it not because you have to with a heavy heart but do it because you want to. Do what makes you happy cos in the end, it’s what all that matters.

Love,

Present Me

How about you? What would you tell to your younger self?

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39 Comments

  • Reply
    Clarisse
    March 6, 2015 at 5:56 am

    Beautiful! ♥ Will do this too, if you don’t mind? 🙂

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      Alissa
      March 6, 2015 at 9:58 am

      Sure! In fact I encourage everyone to do this in honor of International Women’s Day.

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    rochkirstin
    March 6, 2015 at 9:53 am

    It’s hard to have a heart broken. Positivity will truly help in moving on. Insecurities sure get a lot bigger but there is a bigger God who always believes you can make it.

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      Alissa
      March 7, 2015 at 7:53 pm

      Yes, my heart is so full now. 🙂 We’ve all been through that and we move on

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    tumandok
    March 6, 2015 at 10:23 am

    A version of “Dear Diary” which accounts everyone’s day-to-day personal experiences from at home, at play and even in school. This kind of approach or mode of personal activity is a venue to express everything you want yourself to do. And after, you’ll feel being satisfied and relieved.

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    caloyolano
    March 6, 2015 at 11:05 am

    We all have fears but it should not let us quit our pursuit of true happiness. Great post. 😉

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    joyfelizardo
    March 6, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    I’m now on m late thirties and there are so man things I should have told myself when I was a bit younger, less wiser, intimidated, hurt, self-giving but the mistakes, those hurts and my inhibitions sure thought me a lot of lessons. The lessons I have learned which made me more stronger and who I am now! You are young and still have lots of lessons to learn, just always focus on God and allow Him to move in your life and soon enough you will discover the “YOU” that ought to be:)

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    Mimi Gonzales
    March 6, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    I am somehow inspired with your thoughts in this — growing up is not an easy thing, but I look up to everyone who knows how to see the past as growth. Anyway, I’ll definitely make a post like this in honor of Women’s Day! 🙂

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      Alissa
      March 7, 2015 at 7:58 pm

      You should! This is a great way to spread this campaign.

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    Otakore Literantadodist
    March 6, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    I was bullied too and never forgave them. I already took my revenge way back that time. They felt sorry for what they did.

    And I also have many friends back that time. One thing i learn is i don’t need many friends. Most can’t be trusted. Now, I only have severals that can be counted with my fingers. They are friends who i can really trust.

    Advance Int’l Women’s day to you and to other women. 🙂

    … I wonder how it is like to celebrate International Men’s Day.

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      Alissa
      March 7, 2015 at 7:57 pm

      Thank you! 🙂 I’m not sure if there is a Men’s day but it would be cool if they do!

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    Noor Unnahar
    March 6, 2015 at 7:47 pm

    I loved reading it. Writing a letter to your younger self is a great idea. I guess I’ll try it too 🙂

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    papaleng
    March 7, 2015 at 12:16 am

    What a good read this humid night. It is so refreshing to read other blogger friends writing some of their childhood memories.

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    leybainpublic
    March 7, 2015 at 9:34 am

    Nice blog post. I think I have to do this too. Hopefully I can write as good as you.

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    martha preston (@marthapreston4)
    March 7, 2015 at 10:02 am

    I think is a beautiful letter to the past. I did something similiar instead of new years resolutions this year I thought it was better to acknowledge where I have been and how much I have and the mistakes I made.

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    Nanda Reis
    March 7, 2015 at 11:47 am

    This is so beautiful! I think this is a great idea to write to your younger self, it can be so inspirational and motivational for so many young people!

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      Alissa
      March 7, 2015 at 7:56 pm

      That’s the reason why I made it. Thanks!

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    amayachika
    March 7, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    Love it! A letter that will encourage everyone, especially WOMEN to stand and be strong and never give up.

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    len
    March 7, 2015 at 11:20 pm

    great post! perfect for international women’s day, Girl Power rocks!!!!

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    Abria @ Bee Splendid
    March 8, 2015 at 7:09 am

    I was the kid who went from “Look at me!” to the shyest person in every room. I think it’s easy to be fearlessly outgoing when you’re too young to have learned self-consciousness or shame.

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    MJ Matienzo
    March 8, 2015 at 1:03 pm

    Hi Alissa, your letter to yourself is beautiful. It’s so empowering. Keep your head up and conquer the world with confidence and a smile. 🙂

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    April and the City
    March 8, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    oh, gosh! I have a lot of things to say to my younger self. I shall do this, too, in my lifestyle blog!

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    The Daily Talks
    March 8, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    Awww…This is like talking to yourself in front of a mirror! You girl are brave for recognizing your not only your positive sides but also the negative ones. Keep it up!

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    Areeba
    March 8, 2015 at 4:56 pm

    Alissa, this is such a LOVELY post! I saw this on Superwoman’s channel and I loved the idea!

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    yoydee09
    March 8, 2015 at 7:47 pm

    I love this quote of yours “It’s okay to follow your fears too. You’ll never know if you try” . I’ll try this. Very interesting story

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    Jhanz
    March 8, 2015 at 8:46 pm

    This is just wonderful. I can totally relate to the growing up part, and I love how strong you’ve become even with all the hardships. You’ll go far, I know it. <3

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      Alissa
      March 9, 2015 at 1:05 am

      Thank you Jhanz. Means a lot 🙂

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    franckxethee
    March 8, 2015 at 10:44 pm

    It’s really nice to look back at the time you stood up to your bullies. Everything happens for a reason and that’s what we appreciate in hindsight.

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    franckxethee
    March 9, 2015 at 12:15 am

    I agree, it’s the quality of friends that counts over quantity.

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    Corinne
    March 9, 2015 at 7:02 am

    I’d love to be able to talk to my younger self. I always go back and think what I’d do differently if I knew what I knew now, and hd the confidence!

    Corinne x
    http://www.skinnedcartree.com

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    Ay Lin
    March 9, 2015 at 8:49 am

    Love it! Maybe I should write something for myself. And yes, I also believe in quality over quantity. I’d rather have one true friend that countless fake friends.

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    Aileen
    March 9, 2015 at 11:49 am

    This is a very beautiful post, Alissa. And you really have a way with words. Your journey so far seemed to be a very eventful one, but I can sense how strong you are. Keep it up! 🙂

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      Alissa
      March 9, 2015 at 8:19 pm

      Thank you Aileen 🙂 I hope so

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    Paula Panaglima
    March 9, 2015 at 12:46 pm

    A post as beautiful as you! Glad to be able to sneak a peek to your soul, love. x

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      Alissa
      March 9, 2015 at 8:19 pm

      Aww thanks Paula 🙂

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    Samantha C.
    March 9, 2015 at 12:47 pm

    Lovely. I think one of the best practices is writing yourself a letter, also for your future self to thank you.

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    Carlo Sagada
    March 9, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Happy International Women’s Day Celebration. A beautiful lady like you inspires many people.

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    Jojo Vito
    March 10, 2015 at 12:28 am

    beautiful …i just disagree a bit with this line “Focus on yourself more and love will just arrive”. for me love will come the moment we sow more and forget a bit about ourselves…juts my opinion 🙂

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