How To Deal With Long Distance Relationship

Count yourself lucky if you have your significant other by your side most of the time. But if you’re like me who’s boyfriend is miles away, it can get pretty tough not being able able to see him. I’ve made a list on how you can deal with having a long distance relationship:

TRUST

It takes an immense amount of trust to be in a relationship where you’re miles apart. You have to be honest to each other on everything that you do to avoid jealousy. You just need to trust each other cos I think that’s the most important part of being in an LDR.

COMMUNICATION

When you’re miles apart, you can only count on communication to stay connected to each other. I highly recommend the app called Couple. It is what we use. It has so many great features. You can chat there, share photos and you can edit them with built in filters, send voice mails, send drawings where you can draw it on that app, you’ll know what time is it there in his place and you’ll even know where he is. My favorite feature is the live sketch where you can draw together in real time and the thumb kiss where if you’ll touch the screen, you can see your thumb print there and if he puts his thumb where your thumb print is, both of your phones will vibrate.

Any app will do though just as long as you are able to communicate with each other.

SKYPE DATES

Make sure you get to have Skype dates as often as you can. It’s nice to see your SO live on cam and just talking to him. You can even sleep together and wake up together. Simple moments like that can really make a difference considering you don’t see each other all the time. You don’t always have to do this inside the house. You can both take a walk together while talking to him on Skype or do other activities.

MOVIE DATES

You can both watch movies together even if you’re on the other side of the world. You can play movies at the same time and be on a Skype call. It feels like you’re really watching together when you can see each others reactions and hear their side comments.

I wonder why people still underestimate the authenticity of long distance relationships. I fell in love with his soul before I could even touch his skin. If that isn’t true love, then please tell me what is.

SHARE MOMENTS

Surprise him with a playlist that you made, send photos of your whereabouts, recommend music for him that you like, let him be there on Skype when you’re hanging out with family or friends. It would feel like he’s there too and he can join in the conversation.

KNOW EACH OTHER’S SCHEDULES

You don’t want to disturb him when he’s asleep or at work or school. Knowing each other’s schedules lets you keep track when he’ll be busy or free. You should know that he has another life outside your relationship. You don’t always have to video call all the time.

GIVE SOMETHING SPECIAL

It’s nice if you have something to hold on to like a t shirt of him, or maybe a teddy bear or a pillow. Surprise each other by sending things that mean to you. You can even send letters along with it.

STAY POSITIVE

Being far away is hard enough. Set a date on when you will meet each other. Patience is crucial. If you met each other online and in two different continents that it might sound impossible to meet each other, just be positive. You’ll never know. There’s always a way when it comes to love especially when the two of you are both willing to make it work. There will come a time where you can meet each other.

Have you ever been in an LDR? How did you cope with it?

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38 Comments

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    Andrew Olano
    February 20, 2015 at 9:58 pm

    It is tough to be in that kind of situation but indeed, people are now coping better with the help of technology. Technology somehow has bridge the gap as we do not feel as apart as let’s say 20 years ago. We have to rejoice for these but in the end, it is all about commitment. Nice post!

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      Alissa
      February 21, 2015 at 8:45 am

      Thank you. It is hard but if two of you are willing to make it work, then it can work πŸ™‚

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    Arsie
    February 20, 2015 at 11:24 pm

    It’s true that long distance relationship can be very hard. It takes a lot of trust and patience from both parties.

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    Cebuana Mom
    February 21, 2015 at 1:01 am

    Now that is something that needs a LOT of patience, trust, loyalty, among other things. Love is simply not enough in a long distance relationship.

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    Jae
    February 21, 2015 at 1:28 am

    I could totally relate to these things although things got better when we both had access to iMessage and FaceTime. You know things got tougher when my husband returned to the US shortly after our wedding. The feeling’s unimaginable.

    If there’s one thing I’d add to this list, it’s to look forward to the next day you’ll see each other again. It somehow gets easier when you think about each day passing as another day closer to being in each other’s arms again. That’s probably how I managed to get by in the six years that we’ve spent mostly apart. πŸ™‚

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      Alissa
      February 21, 2015 at 8:50 am

      6 years? Wow now that’s long. Glad you guys made it work. I’ve read that you’re closing the distance soon. This gives me hope. So happy for you πŸ™‚

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    Noor Unnahar
    February 21, 2015 at 1:44 am

    LDR requires a lot of patience. My aunt was in a long distance relationship for 2 years and they got married last year. I was relieved to see their happy ending but in between. I also saw their struggles to keep their relation alive. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.

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      Alissa
      February 21, 2015 at 8:56 am

      It sure is worth it. I get happy when I see couples who survived the distance πŸ™‚

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    rochkirstin
    February 21, 2015 at 5:36 am

    I have experienced having a long distance relationship so I know how trust is so critical. We updated each other a lot with regular Skype calls and private blogs. Yes, being positive is also important.

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      Alissa
      February 21, 2015 at 9:08 am

      Are you still together? πŸ™‚

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    sef tiburcio (@seftiburcio)
    February 21, 2015 at 6:54 am

    I am not into long distance relationship but this post means a lot to some people.

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    Fernando Lachica
    February 21, 2015 at 10:54 am

    Trust and respect are the most vital of all when it comes to long distance relationship. The same is true with married OFW men and women. Likewise, before anything else is the full acceptance to each other knowing that their comes a time that problems may occur.

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    Pal Raine
    February 21, 2015 at 12:11 pm

    It’s easy to say, but if you are in that situation is hard to do. Just broke up with my partner(LDR), base on my experience—it is so hard! Even if you say, you need to TRUST him…it doesn’t work.

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      Alissa
      February 21, 2015 at 6:27 pm

      Well I guess it depends on the person. You’ll know who you should put your trust into. Trust is earned and if he shows that he efforts and is really is loyal to you, then you’re okay. I’m in that position too now and I can see that I can trust him so hopefully this works. Sorry that it didn’t go well for you.

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    Ron Leyba
    February 21, 2015 at 3:18 pm

    Pretty awesome practical tips. I think the real key here is communication and being faithful with each other :).

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    Dianne Salonga
    February 21, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    It’s like give and take relationship. No matter how far you are with your partner. If you love him / her you will believe him / her. Happiness is serve to those who trust each other.

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    Franc Ramon
    February 21, 2015 at 5:48 pm

    I think communication and trust is important. It also helps if you have a lot of shared memories together.

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    Franc Ramon
    February 21, 2015 at 6:58 pm

    I think it’s easier now going on long distance relationship with Skype, viber and other mobile applications. You can spend more time online together.

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    Jonas Labagala
    February 21, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    LDR imposed so many challenges for the couple and it takes trust to each other. I couldn’t imagine my life to be like that but if I do, I would have to know her schedule of work and the best time to call her. We should also remind ourselves not to be tempted with other people and we should be trusting each other even more.. Whew!

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    John
    February 21, 2015 at 10:37 pm

    With the advent of new technology such as Skype and other similar stuff, I don’t think the meaning of long distance relationship is still the same 20 years ago. Anyway, your list will absolutely come in handy for others who are in similar situation.

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      Alissa
      February 22, 2015 at 9:10 pm

      Thank you! πŸ™‚

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    Jojo Vito
    February 21, 2015 at 11:21 pm

    It will never be that easy…but thanx to technology …i guess one very important thing to do is frequent-very frequent communication if you can

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      Alissa
      February 22, 2015 at 9:09 pm

      Yes indeed. Good thing we have internet now

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    Joyce
    February 22, 2015 at 12:34 am

    LDR is indeed hard. Really really hard especially the time differences, I usually stay up late just for us to chat. It takes patience and huge effort. But the sacrifice is all worth it. Hihi
    Welcome to the LDR club, Ali

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      Alissa
      February 22, 2015 at 9:09 pm

      Thanks Joyce! πŸ™‚ It’s gonna be worth it though.

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    Jhanz
    February 22, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    It takes a lot of patience and trust to make LDR work. Communication is definitely one of the keys of making this kind of relationship work. Great thing we have technology, now it kind of feels/sounds like something more bearable. πŸ™‚

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      Alissa
      February 22, 2015 at 9:07 pm

      That’s why I’m very thankful we have internet now and technology. πŸ™‚

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    Rebecca Wong
    February 23, 2015 at 9:38 am

    Nice post. I’ve been through a long distance relationship and I can say it wasn’t easy. It definitely requires much more creativity and patience in making it work.

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    Sam
    February 24, 2015 at 11:06 am

    I haven’t tried an LDR. However, I plan to travel next year, leaving my boyfriend behind. I don’t know what it will take, so thanks for this πŸ™‚

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      Alissa
      February 24, 2015 at 1:14 pm

      You’re welcome! πŸ™‚ Distance is just a number.

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    papaleng
    February 24, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    LDR is for those who have lots of patience and sufferings to share. I like your idea on how to deal with LDR. movie date, πŸ™‚

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    Karen of MrsLookingGood
    February 26, 2015 at 4:40 am

    Happy for you that you are doing your best in making your LDR work! Love all your tips and with today’s technology, it is much much easier. I had been in one before and it spanned several years. And it is indeed hard.

    Now I have a long distance relationship with my parents who are in the Philippines. FaceTime and Facebook help us keep in touch all the time.

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    marichu
    March 2, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    count me in sa mga swerteng laging asa tabi ko si hubby!.but i agree with you that trust and communication talaga is makakatulong to strengthen the relationship.

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    Badet Siazon (@badudets)
    March 3, 2015 at 1:40 am

    LDR is tough but if two people are exerting great efforts to make it work, then it will work.

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    Sharon Wu
    September 14, 2015 at 9:16 am

    Long distance relationships are so hard! I’ve been in one for almost a year and a half now, and it has definitely NOT been easy. I think the number one thing is communication, because a relationship is all about growing together and if there is no communication or miscommunication, then the chances of two people growing apart are a lot higher. I’ve found that communicating my feelings honestly has really helped to strengthen my LDR! πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing your personal tips, and so great that you are able to sustain a long distance relationship! xx, sharon | http://www.stylelullaby.com
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      Alissa
      September 14, 2015 at 12:31 pm

      Thanks Sharon! I’m glad everything’s working it out for you. I’m sad to say I’m no longer in a relationship. It’s not about distance but it’s about something else. It’s hard cuz we haven’t really known each other in person. It was great while it lasted though πŸ™‚

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    Dominique
    March 21, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    Oh goodness. LDR seems to be one of the most common -also- hardest things to sustain. It’s tough but when you love the person, you can do everything right?

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